A “good” wife and mom means cooking every night,picking up after the kids,doing the laundry, washing the dishes,cleaning the bathroom,sweeping and mopping the kitchen,vacuuming the house,dusting the bookshelf’s,walking the dog…

As women we are taught to be “good” wives and “good”moms. Often times that includes making sure your husband comes home to a hot meal and your kids come home to a clean house. 

That may have been true..about 20 years ago when women didn’t have full time jobs. 

We can’t pretend that the world hasn’t progressed since we were taught these lessons.

So why is it that as women we feel obligated to be the ONLY one that has to cook and clean ALL the time. It’s 2021 and we work full time jobs just like our husbands. So why should we be stuck cooking and cleaning all day while they sit back without a care in the world? How is that fair? I call bullshit! 

I remember growing up and seeing my mom spend her off days cleaning. It absolutely drained her. Now that I’m an adult with my own household. I’m not ashamed at all to ask for help. I refuse to burn out trying to be superwoman. 

There is absolutely nothing wrong with asking for help! Whether you outsource or your partner helps to pitch in (or both if you’re lucky) always ask for help when you need it. 

Stress is no joke. You do know that increased levels of stress can cause high blood pressure right? Having too much on your plate causes stress and can even cause resentment toward your partner and other loved ones in your life. Which is why you should ask for help. If your partner and loves ones care about your well being, they’ll be fine with helping you out. Every little bit helps and it can really make a world of difference. 

Productivity in all areas of your life matters. It’s great to be productive as a wife,mom and daughter. But what about you? What about your goals and dreams. They matter too. When you choose not to ask for help you hinder yourself in areas of your life that could otherwise be elevated. You are worthy of all of your dreams. You deserve time to be productive at things that make you happy. You set those goals for a reason and you can absolutely achieve them. 

Asking for help makes you feel grateful and serves as a reminder that your loved ones truly want to see you happy. Sometimes we make assumptions that we are under appreciated and no one cares. Most of the time that couldn’t be further from the truth. You’d be surprised at how much others are willing to help you out. Closed mouths don’t get feed. It’s up to you to speak up. It’s up to you to decide your time is valuable. You have to help yourself and once you do others will follow.